Achieving Secure Attachment

Years ago, I left a toxic marriage where I was co-dependent and miserable. Although I gained the strength to leave, I found myself overwhelmed with anxiety and jumping in and out of more dysfunctional romantic relationships. I had so much knowledge about relationships, yet I could not execute any of what I knew I needed to do. That's when I realized that understanding is the first step of change, but it doesn't lead to anything actually changing. In 2020, my ex husband and father of my children died unexpectedly. In that same month, my mom was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, and my romantic partner left me because he "couldn't handle my stress and give me what I needed." I sunk into emotional despair, severe attachment anxiety, and developed several debilitating health problems. I had one choice: heal and live to raise my children, or die. I couldn't live with the emotional pain anymore, and my physical health had deteriorated so badly from stress that simple tasks required all of my strength. I began scouring the science for actual TOOLS to heal my attachment wounding, which was at the root of my emotional and physical problems. Through my faith in God, and the gift of science, I found ways to start changing my thought patterns, rewire my brain chemistry and calm my nervous system. I practiced these tools every single day until they became automatic. Before I knew it, I was a completely different person! My anxiety was gone. I didn't fear being alone. All of my health problems disappeared. I was ready to get back on the dating market! I was able to identify red flags in potential partners, and I met my securely attached husband. Our relationship is the most fulfilling experience I've ever had, and I show no signs of the attachment wounding I once had. Now, I help people all over the world learn the tools and strategies I personally used to heal my attachment wounds and profoundly change the trajectory of my life.